There are specific statutes that address parenting plan development. Just because one of you stayed home with the children doesn’t automatically place that person in the primary parenting seat. The Court takes not only the past and present into consideration, but also the future. The Court will also craft parenting plans to address the effects of domestic violence or other considerations which may harm your children.
The state’s goal, remember, is strong families. That usually (but not always) means maximized time with both parents. Not all children are equally close to each parent, or even to their own siblings, but divorce changes things. Happy, healthy children are the ultimate goal. There is no “winning” spouse when it comes to the children’s situation.
Depending on their age, your children may be able to have input about parenting time and legal decision-making, too. But it’s a balancing act. Under- and over-estimating your children’s ability to make these kinds of decisions is tricky.